If you didn’t know by now, my husband and I don’t have any kids. We won’t be having any either. I’m not going to go too far into it, just a combination of biological, emotional, psychological reasons. Maybe I just wasn’t made to be a mom. I’m an awesome aunt, godmother, and Dog mom so I’m okay with my situation.
I am lucky enough to know a few of the best moms around: my younger sister is the lucky mom of two little girls and a son due in about two months, my best friend since 5th grade K- has 3 girls and my very close friend T- has a son and two daughters. I think these women are amazing, they work so hard to grow their families, and they each do it in a unique way.
K- is a SAHM who spends every minute with her girls, they are funny, well rounded and smart. My sister works full time but makes every minute outside of work special for her girls, they are as different as night and day, but both girls are outgoing, smart and fun. T-works full time as a child advocate and even after an excruciating day in the office, she is able to make her time with the kids special. Each of her children is silly, intelligent and attentive.
I think each of these moms knew from the time they were little girls that they would be mamas. I’m sure of it actually, and as different as each mom is, her idea of her perfect family differs just as much. I think my sister and K- are pretty well situated according to them, as they are, maybe a change in the future, but for mow, their families are complete. T- on the other hand is missing a piece of her family, a piece of her heart. T- always wanted kids, but she also knew that whether or not she had her own biological kids, she wanted to adopt.
T- and her husband are on their way to adopting a child, finding the missing piece of their family. They would like to adopt a young child from China or maybe Korea. A couple of months ago T- and her husband asked me if I would write a letter for them, to the adoption agency. After jokingly hemming and hawing I said, “OF COURSE!”
Soon after I wrote, edited and mailed a letter to Maryland, the home of the adoption agency. Surprisingly T- called me earlier this week and said the agency told her they never received my letter and the agency contact asked in an email “Does she know how to address an envelope?” Well, I can assure you I do! So I emailed her my letter. My email was returned undeliverable immediately. I had transposed two of the letters in the e-mail address…maybe I DON”T know how to address a real envelope! My mistake fixed I re-sent and received delivery confirmation. So that brings us to today.
I wanted to share a few portions of the letter so you can see what amazing parents T and S already are, and you can think good thoughts as they embark on this exciting, long journey.
Maybe my letter will help you if someone asks to write an adoption reference letter! There are so many things I wanted to point out, talk about, but I tried to make it concise.
--make it clear from the onset that I am RECOMMENDING they be approved,
--who was I recommending,
--what are they like together,
--what is their home/neighborhood/friends are like,
--how are they with their kids,
--what their kids think about a new br./sister,
-- and again make it clear I am RECOMMENDING they be approved as prospective adoptive parents.
Wish them luck!